Stay strong..

Hey there. This is me opening up a blog after being persuaded by my best of friends. Well, this thought came about after I have decided to end my relationship with someone who means the whole damn world to me. It is a good platform to express ourselves and not just bottle our emotions away as if it does not matter to us. The art of letting go is indeed difficult and it is truly a torturous moment in someone’s life which I strongly encourage to not do it alone and seek help about it.

It has been a week ever since the break up and I am grateful to have great girl friends around me to support my down moments in life..

Anyways, let's not drag any further and move on to the few words of thing which I would like to share.. Honestly, I am directing this upon myself too..

Number one, staying strong does not mean that we are not allowed to shed any tears.. Cry all you want (I want) because that is how the human being express their sadness within him or herself. My cousin shared with me a story from her past. She end of things with her ex boyfriend and cried for every single day throughout that one month. It was painful for her to  leave a 5 years worth of memories behind just because the guy could not make up his mind to settle down with her. She took a year off and went to Australia to continue her degree for a year. Despite that one year getaway whereby she was trying to get him off her mind. He was still the first person whom she met with at the airport upon her first touch down in Singapore.They had coffee, cried for hours while having that "talk". He loved her, she love him however there are some things, traits or even personality that no matter what they do, they still can't change the fact that these evidence may result to future detrimental effect of that relationship and its just not meant to be. So what is my message to you readers? 

I'm trying to convince myself that it is okay to cry everyday so long as I know my objective for it. It is okay to feel vulnerable for a short period of time so long as you (I) know that you(I) can't stay that way forever. It is okay to feel fragile because you are(I am) sad and it is so damn right to know how you feel , what are your emotions like in that critical period of time. I believe that that we have to use this style called emotional coaching whereby we take all the time that we have to acknowledge the different feelings that we are feeling and then regulate it to stabilize ourselves again. Cry all you want because really, everything happens for a reason and we got to always be optimistic about the things that will surface along the journey that we are about to embark it.. Cry it out and learn the art of letting go of things. Cry and take time off things because taking a step back sometimes can help you see a greater  picture of things and can help you (me) think of all the possible ways to solve this issue. Learn to let go because you are learning to love yourself more each day.

Number 2, I(we) have to realize that everything in this world is not ours to choose fully. We got to learn to let go.. Spiritually I believe that there is god in this world and when he created (us), our fate instantly will appear in heaven.. Example knowing our soulmate, how many children we will have in the future to come or simply the time to say goodbye to this world. We have to accept that it is beyond our control to why things happen however, what we can do as a purely humble human being is, to reflect upon our actions and think of it as a learning experience or lessons in life. Nature has its ways of balancing things, for example we have to juggle school and work evenly if not we crashed. Similarly, we might think that the person whom we love are so god damn right for us but my dear love is blind and sometimes it gives us delusional thoughts and thus it is so toxic. For instance, we might come to believe that we actually do or is cut out for a person and in our mind we might even think that we evenly  have that " balance or simply right energy" with them however in reality the person thinks otherwise or having a spark of hope, has actually given you that unrealistic thoughts that it might still work out. Learn to let go and believe that god has better plans for you , and me. Learn to let go because your partner happiness means a lot to you and sacrificing something that will bring goodness in both of you is a way to go. Accept reality, never question or have doubts about it. We need to learn to find peace within ourselves to even be able to accept difficulties with an open heart. Our mind needs to be positively strong and heck I am not saying that these things happen overnight.. it might take days, weeks, months even years and that is truly okay. This is because accepting the fact that some people are not meant to stay in our life but to maybe bring us great valuable lessons will give us peace for eternity. Knowing that this life is truly not 100% for us to venture in without believing that the creator is also there shaping our lives through the decisions that we have made along the way... will lead us to the right way in life.. Handing over our emotions, soul and thoughts to him (god) will give us a peace of mind because we know that from the start this world was created by him thus it is only natural for us to seek guidance from it to ensure that we have a smooth journey in this life..

Lastly, it is okay to walk away from someone when things gets a little overwhelming in your relationship. Find your happiness, navigate your identity, love yourself and get to know yourself better. Venture out for those self-help books or journal and set up a self care list of task for you to do to make yourself feel better. Heck , spend your allowance money on yourself for that week, go out on a therapeutic dates with your friends or family and talk your emotions out. Never isolate yourself when you are in need of help, love yourself enough to get out from that comfort zone and seek help. Afterwards.. make goals and re-adjust your life back to how it should be. Create your morals or principles in life and abide by it. Re-invent your life and this time, renovate it with colors to remove the dullness or toxic in it. 

Cheers,

Sleepy head.